So the decision to move is now official. You have chosen a new location for your whole family and it is only a matter of time and some preparation to get things going. The amount of time and effort required for everything is truly not small, especially when there are kids involved in the whole process. Children are a major factor to consider in a move, because they need special care during and after the move takes place.
You probably already know this, but it has to be mentioned again – children need to be informed about the decision to move and they need to be part of the preparation process. This is especially true for children over certain ages that have better understanding of what is going on and have harder time readjusting. Make sure you discuss everything with them, answer all of their questions (they will have many) and outline all the positives of the move that they will take part in. This will make the move less forced on them and thus easier to handle.
It is probably a good idea to leave the kids’ room last for packing. Normally they use their belongings on a daily basis, so preparing everything last prior to moving can save some problems. This is especially true for babies and toddlers, who require special care. The nursery should be up and running for as long as possible before the move.
As much as kids should be part of the discussions, it is also good to include them in the packing process, under proper supervision of course. Experts say that creating organizational skills should start from young age, and what better time to exercise those than during a move. Bring in the boxes and start sorting everything together – toys, books, clothes, school accessories and anything else they need to pack. Many kids feel connected not only to their home, but also to objects, and by participating in the packing process they retain a sense of security for their precious belongings. This means less stress and problems during the move altogether.
Use the time to make an inventory of everything and decide on what should be kept and moved to the new location, and what should be tossed away. There is a problem many parents face here – children want to keep everything. Now while it may be true that this is a chore and a burden, you may want to be a little less strict, at least for the time being. Moving is stressful enough for children even without having to choose what to keep. So it is wise to avoid confrontations and just concede on the idea that you will have to carry a little extra on the truck. If children are small enough and space is seriously limited, you can trick them and remove some of the stuff at night, while they are asleep. It is likely that they will forget about it during the chaos of activities surrounding the process.
During the move, make sure you have the child’s essentials all at hand. Toys, clothes, and feeding accessories – they should all be within reach. And once you move to the new place, it is a good idea to establish the kids’ room first. Making them feel comfortable among their furniture, toys and whatever else they have brought from their old home along is important for their well being. It lessens the stress of the new environment, and allows you to focus on all of the other work that needs to be around the new house.
Moving with your family can be challenging and rewarding at the same time. The most important thing is to get the maximum out of the situation and assess the possibilities. Nothing helps more towards that goal than having a trouble-free move.
Ailsa Smith writes on behalf of http://movingto.org.uk/west-london/
She can give you some packing and moving ideas to organize a stress free move.